Richard Russo, the world's greatest living novelist (sorry, it's a measurable fact, not an opinion), recently penned an op-ed piece for The
Fictive Eliot will do exactly what the real Eliot has done, only my guy almost never imagines getting caught. And when he does occasionally consider the possibility, he trusts that there will be ample warning that disaster is imminent. For the most part, things in his life have happened slowly, especially the good things, and he trusts that bad things will evolve similarly. He will swerve at the last moment (emphasis mine). The possibility of a head-on collision, swift and devastating, simply never occurs to him."
Believe me when I tell you that there are eerie similarities in what we have heard from many young adults regarding sex, contraception, and pregnancy and fictive Eliot. Over the last 18 months the National Campaign has held about 20 focus groups with single, young adults in their 20s from all over the country and asked them a simple question: Why is it that so many people who do not want to get pregnant/cause a pregnancy do not use contraception? Summarizing here, many told us "it won't happen to me and even if it does, we/I can deal with it." For most, it seems, the deal with it attitude has less to do with the availability of abortion than it does with the foggy notion that--somehow, someway--young adults can swerve to avoid the head-on collision of pregnancy, childbearing, and family formation.
Well, i asked one of my friends the same question.He has two twins,he's situation was mainly telling me that she cant get pregnant because we havent been using rubbers for years she isnt fertile.But i would always tell him regardless,there is always a chance of her getting pregnant unless you go to the doctor to get her examined and the doctor says she can't have kids thats the only way you will know.Now he still tells me that he want use a rubber she want get pregnant.My opinion i believe they get mixed up with the pleasure.Since it feels so so good without a rubber,why use one.This attitude cant be changed in my honest opinion.The only way this can change one is by them actually experiencing the situation and having to coupe with the stress, i believe not even this will stop them. They have to decide for themselves when to stop.
I've had a lot of frineds and family members believe that they could never get pregnant because they wouldn't let the guy release inside of them, until they got caught up in the moment and now they have kids. Their mindset changed and now they now that it can happen to anyone and it can happen on the first time... Now when people talk about it, they are the living examples and quick to say that it can actually happen. I believe that people can change their process of thinking depending on whose telling them. Hey, it happened to me... I dont listen to my parents sometimes but i will listen ti my aunt. I know its different but its the same concept. Although the decision is up to them, the impact that someone can have on them must be present
I know lots of situations that deal with getting pregnant and not using contraceptives and I know situations on getting pregnant while using protection. In most cases many young adults don't think about the long term affects of having sex. A friend once told me that you have sex to get pregnant. I guess in her words that means; you have sex, you risk geting stuck. I know and understand that when you're having sex, that's not what runs through your mind. A baby should be the furthest from your mind, but yet and still many women end up with one or multiple. An unplanned pregnancy is fatal, but if you don't want that burden..RAP IT UP!!
These teenagers need to be watching the NBC's new show called Baby Barrowers to see how hard it's like to be a parent. I think NBC is doing a great job at trying to prevent early pregnancies.