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About one-third of teen girls become pregnant at least once by age 20 and fully half of all pregnancies in the United States are unplanned.  Not too good

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Jun 25 2009

starsReal Life Lessons from MTV's "16 and Pregnant"

 

16-and-pregnant.jpgHave you been watching the new documentary series "16 and Pregnant" on MTV? I have and I think it's great. But I'm a 31-year-old man -- hardly MTV's demographic -- so you probably don't care what I think.  Instead, I've asked one of the wonderful teens with whom we work, Avery from Chevy Chase, MD, with to share some of her thoughts on the show. Here's what she had to say:

The title of MTV's new show, "16 and Pregnant," is pretty self-explanatory. The show shares the personal stories of teenage girls who are dealing with pregnancy and parents. Despite the fact that they all have teen pregnancy in common, each of the girls we've met so far - Maci from Tennessee, Farrah from Iowa, and Amber from Indiana - have completely different lives and interests. However, each of the girls starts out saying that she will keep her life nearly the same as her pre-pregnancy existence once she has her baby. Not surprisingly, conflicts immediately arise. The main issues stem from the teens' desire to maintain some, if not all, of their pre-baby priorities and the strain it puts on their relationships.

Despite their initial hopes, these teens quickly realized that having a baby brings serious life changes and sacrifices. Both Maci and Amber move in with their boyfriends. However, the girls are very reluctant to give up their hobbies and interests, while their boyfriends are even more so. In the first episode, Maci is interested in school, dance, her boyfriend, Ryan, and most notably, dirt-biking. Throughout her pregnancy, Maci continues school, a job, and dirt-biking. Maci realizes the dirt-biking is not a good idea, and tries to convince her boyfriend Ryan of the fact, which upsets him. As a result, Maci literally goes into labor while riding on the back of Ryan's four-wheeler (what a way to bring a baby into the world). Once Maci has her baby, she tries to make it all work: school, a part-time job, hang out with her friends, dance twice a week, and keep her boyfriend. She soon realizes she cannot do all of this and must give up her one outlet and source of fun: dance. Maci grows up quickly and tries hard to re-order her priorities. Ryan, however, does not. He goes out with his friends almost every night and leaves Maci home alone with the baby, regularly shirking his paternal responsibilities. As a result, their relationship crumbles as they struggle to stay together for the sake of the baby. Unfortunately, they are both completely miserable.

Amber and Gary have a similar story. When she gets pregnant, they move in together with the best intentions for their future. They both agree that they must save up all their money for when the baby comes. Unfortunately, Gary has difficulty putting the baby ahead of fun and he buys a $500 PlayStation 3. This causes huge tension, not only between Gary and Amber, but also between Gary and Amber's family, who rightfully criticize his immaturity. Like Ryan, it seems that Gary has trouble giving up his hobbies and the couple ends up fighting about who must take care of the baby when they are both exhausted from work, lack of sleep, and lack of fun.

Unlike Maci and Amber, the father of Farrah's baby is absent in her episode. She wants to raise the baby at home with the help of her parents and early on she claims having a baby won't be "that hard." She wants to stay in high school, continue cheerleading, and go on dates. One by one, she realizes she can no longer do any of these things. She leaves school because she cannot stand the gossip about her and so she has to quit cheering, and soon realizes that dating is not really a plausible option for a pregnant teen. On top of that, her relationship with her family progressively deteriorates and becomes more hostile as the episode goes on. In one of the episodes most revealing scenes, her mother calls her attitude "anti-Christ."

Ultimately, as the first three episodes of "16 and Pregnant" prove, it is very difficult to maintain one's regular teen priorities when one has a baby, and it is nearly as impossible to maintain healthy relationships with those around you, despite how well-intentioned it all starts out to be.

Want to learn more about the show? Check out our "16 and Pregnant" page at StayTeen.org for more information, sneak previews, discussion guides, and much more. Don't miss new episodes of "16 and Pregnant" on MTV every Thursday night at 10/9c.

6 Comments


I completely disagree that this show is great. I think its horrific. I watched the first three episodes, and I found it to practically be an advertisement for teen pregnancy. It made it seem that everything would be just fine and being pregnant at 16 isn't a big deal. Well, I work with pregnant and parenting teenagers every day, and it is a big deal. It's incredibly difficulty and not okay. I have discussed this show with several other people, and they also feel the show pretty much encourages teen pregnancy. I am disappointed that the national campaign is supporting this show.



I also work with pregnant and parenting teens, and while I understand what Jennifer is saying I have to disagree with her comment that the show encourages teen pregnancy. If anything it shows the teens from start to finish, how they change their thinking and shows the consequences for the rest of their life of the choice(and it is a choice) of having unprotected sex EVEN ONCE-I work in family planning and it makes me sad to see how even with all the information and resources that are out there so many teens seem so clueless about how to manage their reproductive health and their own bodies. I would like to see the show talk with the teens on the show a little about what their thoughts were about birth control or abstinence before they got pregnant and what they think about it now after a pregnancy. If this show makes one teen think twice about ignoring how an unplanned pregnancy at 14, 15 or 16 yrs old changes your life, and the life of the child you have, it is a worthwhile show. Informing people is not glorifying teen pregnancy, but more info about how to access birth control information or using abstinence(the only 100% effective method) would be great!



I only got to see the finale. I was not so pleased to see that the teens were glorifing the fact that they were all dealing well with their decisions and were getting married. Like a fairy tale, "we are all living happily after ever". As we all know, this very rarely happens. Please let me know if I mis-read the finale.

Rhonda



Well yes i do watch this, its really amazing and thought per motive, I really impressed what you said,Thanks for the mention, This shoes that you put a great deal of care to your work.
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It's so sad that young girls this age or even younger get pregnant.
Frank @ Debt Help


Uhm i so have alot of RESPECT for catelynn i totally admire her shes my favorite on the show

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