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Oct 16 2013Engines and IUDs: (More) Sex Ed With Guy Nottadadi
Guy is back--and this time he's talking about the long-acting, low-maintenance IUD.
BTW, if you or someone you know has heard scary rumors about the IUD--particularly the Mirena (which has been the subject of a lot of scary lawsuit ads lately)--you might want to read (or share) this article by one of Bedsider's medical experts separating the fact from the fiction.
Aug 01 2013Smart and Funny: Birth Control on Baby Daddy
Last night on ABC Family's hit comedy Baby Daddy--about a single twenty-something guy, his young daughter from a previous relationship whose mom is totally out of the picture, his pals, and their wacky lives--one of the characters had a pregnancy scare. Turns out it was a false alarm, but it did give everyone a chance to think what would happen if there was another unplanned pregnancy. It also made the perfect segue to a series of new Baby Daddy webisodes focusing on contraception.
These digital shorts, powered by Bedsider and produced in collaboration with The National Campaign's entertainment team, are hilarious and important. In "I'm Out," Danny, the resident hunk, finds himself out of condoms "at a critical juncture" in the middle of the night. In "Poker," the gang ends up betting something far more valuable than chips as Ben admits that the "if she doesn't mention it, it must be cool" method of birth control isn't exactly the best. In "The Women," Bonnie's getting ready for a big date and needs to "update her system," so Riley explains various contraceptive methods to her. You won't be able to watch without laughing, or learning something.
After more than 15 years of working behind the scenes to help Hollywood take on our issues in meaningful ways, these webisodes are the first sponsored content we've done with a television network. Please take a look and let us know what you think.
Jul 17 2013Keeping Things Casual - Even When It Comes to Contraceptives?
Never one to let a viral article pass me by without skimming for cocktail party fodder, one can only imagine the overwhelming joy I felt when I found out this particular viral article was about hook up culture among college students. As the author of an undergraduate thesis on just that, not to mention a 2010 graduate of a university where hooking up was the norm, I've always had a vested interest in the topic.
The New York Times article opens with a familiar narrative: single girl with a free night texts a hook-up buddy, he comes over, the two have sex, then they go to sleep. The girl remarks that she and her partner don't actually like each other when they're sober and she couldn't imagine simply getting a cup of coffee with him. Their relationship is transactional, a fact demonstrated by the same girl discussing the situation in terms of cost-benefits and low risk, low investment costs. She doesn't have time to have a boyfriend; hooking up allows her sexual gratification without the time commitment of a formal relationship.
So many people have gone on to comment that this story could have been printed in The New York Times decades before, sans details of texting or Facebook. And I'd agree; college students, women specifically, having casual sex with partners who are not considered a boyfriend, at a time of their choosing and under conditions they decide upon, is nothing to write home about. I won't touch on the issue of respect (both for themselves and for their partners), instances of sexual assault, or how sad I felt reading the article as a former participant of the college hookup scene who now has a few years of perspective (perspective I wish I'd had when I was their age). All worthy of discussion, but not as pressing as the lack of a single mention of birth control. For women who cite their own careers and futures as the main reason they simply don't have time to participate in the "relationship" part of a sexual relationship, not one of them mentioned how they were preventing an unplanned pregnancy that could possibly derail their lofty goals.
70% of pregnancies to single women in their twenties are unplanned. So what's going on? Women in their twenties are having more sex than teens, but only about half are using contraception consistently. Say what?! If these women can't speak to their partners sober, how on Earth are they going to have conversations about contraceptives? A conversation about sexually transmitted infections? Or even worse, a conversation about a positive pregnancy test?
Having a boyfriend expect you to go out for dinner and a movie when you have notes to study, fundraisers to plan, and internships to apply for? Maybe it's not a priority right now. But if that's the case, I hope birth control ranks #1 on your priority list. Because having a baby crying in the background while you're trying to get it all done? Probably not the kind of late-night buddy you were hoping for.
Jun 27 2013Man Power: Can Guys Prevent Pregnancy and STIs?
This post was originally published on June 25th, 2013, on Bedsider's tumblr feed.
Can guys prevent pregnancy and STIs? We certainly think so--and not just by wearing condoms, though that's an incredibly important piece of the puzzle. Guys can also protect themselves and their partners by talking about STI testing and condoms, getting tested for STIs, and supporting their partners' use of birth control.
Sadly, it seems there's lots of room for improvement when it comes to dudes taking charge of that part of their lives. New research from the Guttmacher Institute found that 3 out of 4 births to single men were unintended, and more than 1 in 10 single men only found out they were fathers after their child was born. (Um, surprise?)
But back to condoms...
In an article for The New York Times yesterday, writer Pam Belluck noted that even though male condoms are a relatively cheap and effective way to prevent both pregnancy and STIs, around the world only 5% of men wear them. The article (which you should definitely read if for no other reason than the interview with condom-pin-donning superstar Bidia Deperthes) discusses the need to innovate condom technology, but also the importance of making sure men have access to the full range of condoms that are already on the market. Different strokes for different folks definitely applies to condoms and there are already many sizes, shapes, textures, and materials to choose from, but that doesn't mean everyone gets a chance to try out a variety of options to find out what they like best.
Where do other types of birth control fit in?
Research shows that women use their birth control better with their partner's support--we take that to mean that a man's responsibility for prevention goes beyond condoms. We created a Guy's Guide to Birth Control in the hopes that it would help men to better understand all the magic tools that let you have sex without making babies. Guy has covered pregnancy, the pill, and emergency contraception so far, and there are more methods in the works (including condoms). One man-step at a time, we say.
Jun 04 2013Meet Guy, Manly Man and Birth Control Expert
When we first launched Bedsider.org with 18- to 29-year-old U.S. women in mind, one of the most common questions we heard was "What about guys?" We had a ready answer, of course--we wanted to target our efforts to make sure the site really resonated with its intended audience and we felt too broad an audience could make that difficult. And the fact is that most birth control methods available on the U.S. market, including the most effective non-permanent options, are for women.
That said, we've always believed that men have an important role in preventing pregnancy and we've been looking for ways to represent that since we started. Bedsider's new Guy's Guide to Birth Control series, featuring manly man and birth control expert Guy Nottadadi, takes that goal to the next level by presenting some sex ed basics for adults in videos we hope will be as entertaining as they are informative.
Research shows that most guys have a ways to go when it comes to their birth control knowledge. It also shows that women use their birth control better when their partner supports their use of it. So even if you're already a birth control expert like Guy, we hope you'll share the videos with someone in your life who you think has more to learn about birth control.
BONUS: From now until June 17th we're partnering with Sir Richard's Condom Company for a sweepstakes to help get the word out about the series. All you have to do to enter to win a box of fancy, fabulous Sir Richard's condoms is sign up for (or sign into) a Bedsider account and share one of the Guy's Guide videos. Easy, entertaining, educational!